“How can I get back together with my ex girlfriend?” you ask.

Many times when a girl breaks up with a guy, us guys will go into a state of shock – maybe even be in denial that it’s really the end of the relationship. It seems like a bad dream but then you wake up and it’s real!

To get back together with your ex girlfriend you’re going to need to play things very differently from here to succeed.

Let’s dive in…

5 tips (actually rules) to help you get back together with your ex girlfriend…

Rule 1: Know that second chances DO exist.

It IS possible for you to get back together with your ex girlfriend.

The first thing you’ll need to do is ask yourself a few hard questions like…

– Do I really WANT my ex girlfriend back?
– Do I REALLY love my ex girlfriend?
– What are my true motives for wanting my ex girlfriend back?

Examine your own heart quietly and honestly. If you see that you’re motive for getting back with your ex is fear-based – as in fear of being alone, or fear she’ll get with someone else, you may consider not pursuing getting back together as you’ll likely end up hurting the both of you again.

Same also goes if you are looking to “even things up”… you feel you were dumped unfairly.

Although this may be the case, if your motivation to get back together is to “even the score”, again it’s best you walk away.

On the other hand, if you truly want your ex girlfriend back, you really love here and you assess your own motives for getting back with her as pure, let’s talk about what to do (and what not to do) from here.

Rule 2: No being desperate and needy.

Yes you feel desperate, and you REALLY want her back, but you are going to need to channel these feelings elsewhere – NOT at you ex if you are going to win her back.

Talk to your family (not hers), talk to a good friend – even a total stranger but do not beg, plead, cry in front of, or stalk your ex.

Rule 3: Learn to manage your feelings.

Self pity is out. The longer you entertain self pity, the harder it will be to get back together with your ex girlfriend.

You’ll learn exact strategies for controlling (managing) your feelings when following the “Plan” inside this web site.

Rule 4: Keep the connection lines open.

Connection is king with women. And although you won’t be doing any of the pursuing at this stage (more details on this in the “Ex Back Plan” on the Home page), you’ll want to be ready to talk civilly with her in the event she calls you – and she probably will – especially if you follow the “Plan” (Home page).

Rule 5: Know what went wrong.

Take a good look at what went wrong between you guys. And know this: you can’t change her, but you can change you. You’ll need to be crystal clear on what caused the disagreements and ultimately her emotional shut off in order to be really ready to win your ex girlfriend back.

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