How can I get my girlfriend back after she broke up with me? you ask.

Okay, you’re in that tough spot where your girlfriend is now your ex.

That’s rough.

But let’s now shift our focus to how we can win her back.

First off, I want to encourage you to change your approach.

Typically, when we’re in this situation, we tend to ask questions, make promises, and try to reason with our ex.

But these tactics usually backfire.

Every time.

Let’s be clear on what we’re not going to do:

1. No more asking questions.
2. No more making rash promises out of panic.
3. And no more trying to reason with her.

It’s important to realize that your ex may have been discussing the breakup with her friends for a while.

They talk—a lot. But despite this…

She might not be entirely confident in her decision to break up with you

So, it’s crucial that we handle this situation carefully.

How you behave now can make all the difference in whether you win her back or lose her for good.

Here’s a crucial piece of advice:

Stay calm.

I know it sounds simple, but trust me, it’s key.

The more you push, question, and promise, the more convinced she’ll become that breaking up was the right choice.

Instead, show her that you accept the breakup and take some time for yourself

Reconnect with friends, do things you enjoy, and focus on self-care.

By shifting your focus away from her, you’re more likely to may way for genuine opportunities to reconnect with her in the not-to-distant future.

But you’ll need a solid plan and level-headed strategies to maximize those opportunities and avoid blowing your chances.

Make sure to grab this one-page PDF with dos and don’ts for winning your ex back. Pin it up somewhere as a reminder and stick to it.

It’s helped thousands in your shoes reunite with their exes.

Chances are you’ll only get a couple of chances to win her back, so be prepared and committed to making it count.

If you’re interested in some more specific strategies for reconciling with your ex, this article by Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. over at Psychology Today may also be helpful.